The Hidden Cycle Behind Weight Gain – and How Solution Focused Hypnotherapy Can Help

Why You’re Always Hungry (Even When You’re Full)

Have you ever wondered why, despite your best efforts, you still feel constantly hungry – or why weight gain feels almost inevitable no matter how little you eat?

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

What many people don’t realize is that hunger, cravings, and stubborn fat storage often stem from stress and hormonal imbalance not just willpower or diet.

The good news? There’s a way to break the cycle.


The Glucose–Insulin Loop: Why Sugar Spikes Keep You Stuck

Every time you eat, especially sugary or high-carb foods, your blood glucose rises. This triggers a release of insulin, a hormone that helps your body store that glucose.

But when we eat too frequently or rely on sugar for energy, insulin stays elevated for long periods. Over time, your body becomes more efficient at storing fat and less efficient at burning it.

Result: You may feel hungry soon after eating and gain weight more easily – even on a “normal” diet.


Leptin and Ghrelin: The Hormones Driving Your Appetite

Two powerful hormones influence how hungry or full you feel:

  • Leptin tells your brain, “I’m full.” It’s produced by fat cells. Ironically, the more fat you have, the more leptin your body makes—but too much can lead to leptin resistance. Your brain stops receiving the “I’m full” signal, so you keep eating.
  • Ghrelin tells your body, “I’m hungry.” When insulin and stress hormones (like cortisol) are high, ghrelin increases—so you feel ravenous even if your body has plenty of energy stored.

The Cycles:
More Fat → More Leptin → Leptin Resistance → Overeating → More Fat

Stress → More Cortisol → More Ghrelin → More Hunger → More Eating


Chronic Stress: The Root Cause That’s Often Overlooked

If your life feels like a never-ending to-do list or emotional rollercoaster, your body may be living in constant fight-or-flight mode.

This triggers the release of cortisol, your body’s main stress hormone.

Cortisol:

  • Increases your appetite (especially for sugary, high-fat “comfort” foods)
  • Encourages abdominal fat storage
  • Keeps you in a loop of stress → eat → guilt → stress

And here’s the twist: fat cells in the belly area have more cortisol receptors. So the more stress, the more belly fat. The more belly fat, the more cortisol. And so it continues.


Why Diets Alone Don’t Always Work

Here’s why diets can often fail:

  • They don’t address the root issue: stress and hormonal dysregulation.
  • They ignore emotional eating patterns formed in early life and stored in the subconscious brain.
  • They often create more stress (and therefore more cortisol), leading to rebound weight gain.

Unless you change how your mind responds to stress, the hunger, cravings, urges and comfort-eating will keep returning.


Breaking the Cycle with Solution Focused Hypnotherapy

At Jo Ray Hypnotherapy I can help clients go far beyond traditional diets.

Using Solution Focused Hypnotherapy, we work together to:

Empty the “stress bucket” – reducing background stress and calming the nervous system
Engage the intellectual brain – helping you respond consciously instead of reacting on autopilot
Reframe old patterns – such as emotional eating, guilt, binge eating, or late-night snacking
Create new, empowering habits using the brain’s natural neuroplasticity

Many clients are surprised to find that they’re no longer obsessed with food or battling constant cravings, because they’ve changed the pattern at the root.


Real Change is Possible

You may simply need a new approach—one that works with your mind and body, not against it.

If you’re feeling stuck in the cycle of stress, hunger, and weight gain contact Jo Ray Hypnotherapy based in Hove, East Sussex.

 

The Science of Emotional Contagion: Why Your Mood Isn’t Just Yours

Discover the Neuroscience behind Emotional Contagion

How mirror neurons, empathy, and brain-to-brain syncing explain why moods spread and how your emotions affect others


What Is Emotional Contagion?

Have you ever walked into a room and instantly felt tension even before anyone spoke? Or found yourself smiling just because someone nearby was laughing?
That’s not coincidence. It’s emotional contagion — your brain’s built-in ability to mirror the emotions of others.


🧠 The Power of Mirror Neurons

At the heart of emotional contagion lies the mirror neuron system. These special brain cells fire both when you perform an action and when you observe someone else doing it.

They explain why:

  • You wince when you see someone stub their toe.
  • You tear up watching someone cry.
  • You feel energized around happy, upbeat people.

Mirror neurons are the neurological foundation of empathy, allowing your brain to “feel” with others.


😬 Anxiety: The Emotional Amplifier

A moderate amount of anxiety can sharpen focus. But when it spikes, it distorts your emotional radar. You begin to misread cues, seeing threats that aren’t there.

Those already feeling anxious or unsafe are more susceptible to emotional contagion. Their brains stay on high alert, scanning for danger.
The fuller your stress bucket, the more reactive your emotional system becomes.


⚡ 33 Milliseconds to Fear: The Speed of Emotional Transfer

Your brain’s amygdala – responsible for processing fear – can detect a fearful facial expression in just 33 milliseconds. That’s faster than a blink.

This rapid response isn’t isolated to one brain. Emotional contagion activates interconnected neural circuits across individuals, forming what scientists call an interbrain circuit a real-time emotional feedback loop.


🔄 Brain-to-Brain Sync: How We Literally Connect

When you’re emotionally tuned in to someone, your brain waves sync up with theirs.
If they calm down, your nervous system relaxes too. If they get angry, your body reacts as if you’re in danger.

This is empathy at a neurological level, a shared emotional network between people. That’s why being present and undistracted is so powerful in relationships: your mirror neurons are fully online, helping you connect deeply and authentically.


🌍 The Ripple Effect: How Emotions Spread Across Networks

Emotions are contagious – literally. Studies show that feelings like happiness or depression can spread up to three degrees of separation.

Research has found:

  • If someone within a mile of you is depressed, your own risk of depression rises.

  • If a nearby friend is happy, your odds of being happy increase by 25%.

Your emotional state isn’t just yours – it influences your social circle, workplace, and even community.


🌱 The Takeaway: Your Mood Shapes Your World

Whether you’re a parent, partner, leader, or friend, your emotions matter.
You don’t need to be perfectly positive, but cultivating emotional awareness and grounded presence can spread calm, empathy, and connection.

So next time you feel overwhelmed, pause and breathe.
Your calm might just help someone else find theirs.

 

At Jo Ray Hypnotherapy in Hove, I will help you harness the power of your mind to achieve lasting positive change. As an experienced hypnotherapist, I use science-based solution focused hypnotherapy techniques and mindset tools to help you overcome challenges, build confidence, and unlock your full potential. Whether you want to reduce stress, break unwanted habits, or reach new personal or professional goals, I’ll guide you to create the clarity, motivation, and focus you need to thrive.

Breathe to Calm Anxiety: How Slow Breathing Soothes Stress

Have you ever noticed how your breath changes when you’re anxious or stressed?
Maybe your chest tightens, your heart races, and your breathing turns shallow.
That’s your body’s stress response, your built-in alarm system that is trying to protect you.
The problem is, in modern life, it often stays switched on far too long.

When anxiety hits, your mind may spiral with thoughts you can’t control.
But the one thing you can control is your breath, your breath can gently guide you back to calm.

Intentional breathing exercises for anxiety do more than just help you relax.
They directly influence your nervous system, activating the vagus nerve, which tells your body it’s safe to rest.
By learning to slow and deepen your breath, you can reduce anxiety, ease physical tension, and restore emotional balance.

In this guide, you’ll learn how your body’s stress response works, what the vagus nerve has to do with calm, and how simple breathwork techniques can help you shift from worry and panic to peace and clarity.


🧠 Your Body’s Emergency Response System

Let’s rewind thousands of years. Imagine you’re one of our early human ancestors. Suddenly, a predator appears. In an instant, your body shifts into survival mode.

Your sympathetic nervous system – often called the fight-or-flight response – springs into action.
🫀 ➕ 🧠 ➕ 💨 = ⚠️

Your heart rate climbs, sending more blood to your muscles.
You start breathing faster to take in extra oxygen.
Your brain races to find a way out of danger.

This automatic system kept our ancestors alive – but it hasn’t changed much since then.


📱 Fast Forward to Modern Stress

Today, you’re probably not being chased by wild animals.
But your brain doesn’t always know the difference between physical threats and psychological ones.

📱💼📈 = Same Stress Response

Deadlines, notifications, traffic jams, and constant noise can all trigger that same fight-or-flight system.
Your heart races, your breath shortens, and your thoughts speed up.

Your body is preparing for battle – except there’s no tiger to fight.


💨 Breathing: The Switch That Calms You Down

When the danger passes, your body is designed to return to a resting state.
That’s the job of your parasympathetic nervous system – your body’s rest-and-digest mode.

💨⬇️ + 🫀⬇️ = 🧘‍♀️

And the fastest way to activate it is through your breath.

Long, slow exhales send a signal through the vagus nerve – a powerful communication pathway between your brain and body – telling your system it’s safe to relax.


🌿 What Is Vagal Tone and Why It Matters

Scientists call your ability to shift from stress to calm vagal tone.
It reflects how efficiently your nervous system can recover after being triggered.

📊🧠🫀 = Vagal Training

Regular breathing exercises – often called breathwork – can strengthen this system.
Over time, you’ll find it easier to manage anxiety, recover from stress, and maintain emotional balance.

Think of it as resilience training for your nervous system.


🫁 The Breath Is Always with You

You can’t always control what happens around you – but you can control your breath.

Try this simple breathing exercise whenever you start to feel overwhelmed:

  • 🫁 Inhale gently through your nose for 4 seconds

  • 💨 Exhale slowly through your mouth for 6–8 seconds

  • 🔁 Repeat for 1–2 minutes

Each slow exhale acts as a reset button for your body.
You’re not just breathing – you’re sending yourself a powerful message: You are safe.


At Jo Ray Hypnotherapy in Hove, I will help you harness the power of your mind to achieve lasting positive change. As an experienced hypnotherapist, I use science-based solution focused hypnotherapy techniques and mindset tools to help you overcome challenges, build confidence, and unlock your full potential. Whether you want to reduce stress, break unwanted habits, or reach new personal or professional goals, I’ll guide you to create the clarity, motivation, and focus you need to thrive.